I have lived in Northern California for 8 years and I still say, “I am going home” when I talk about visiting my parents. I truly have a home in northern California and after being in Indiana for 3 days now can honestly say I like where I live and don’t want to leave even thought it is outrageously expensive. So why do I refer to Indiana as going home? Could be that my parents still live in the same house that I grew up. It could be that it is my parents and no matter how old I am you walk through the doors and you are still their kid. Whatever it is it doesn’t seem to change. My mom refers to Connecticut as “going home” and she has lived in Indiana and created a home here for the last 30 years.
It is a ideal place in my head when I have been gone for 6 months. I get homesick every fall and really want to get back to Indiana. I can usually convince myself that moving back to the Midwest would be fun. Then I come out to Indiana for a visit and I miss the mountains and water I see everyday. I like driving down the country roads but the strip malls and all the vacant buildings can be a little depressing. I was driving past strip malls yesterday and it felt claustrophobic. Almost like it was closing in on me and striping me of culture. It is definitely an over statement of Indianapolis but it is how the suburbs make me feel. The city has a lot going on for the middle of the country but the areas around it are really lacking. My parents have looked over the entire city to find ingredients and wine. Most weeks they make a 45 minute trip north to Cost Plus for wine, and penzey’s spice store and a small variety of other stores that have special ingredients. They can find most of the ingredients but not easily. The Trader Joe’s doesn’t have as big of a wine selection and you have to drive 45 minutes to get to it, there isn’t a whole foods (though it is apparently on the way), the local grocery stores are mostly chains or super wal-mart, target or Kmart stores. I want my Berkeley bowl and the whole foods down the street not to mention the farmer’s market.
I don’t think that the great local shopping, views and culture quite justify $900k average home prices, but I am willing to pay a little more for rent, groceries and gas to continue living in the bay area. However, every fall I will be coming “home”.